When you said that, did you know it hurt?

One of the best pre-marital advice my wife and I received from friends was this:

"When you feel hurt by your spouse, assume misunderstanding and immediately seek to resolve". Too often, we assume that someone meant to hurt us without talking it through with them - we find out later that they did not mean it a certain way, or were hurting back because they felt hurt to begin with. "...You should have known how I would feel when you brought up that issue!"

Remember, love "always protects" 1 Corinthians 13:7, NIV

Protect those you love, and take the effort to work out relational challenges. With marriage, the covenant is meant to last until death - it's worth it to work things out!!